Monday, 30 July 2012

Never Grow Up



It's hard to know how to feel about the prospect of integration: alters becoming one more unified person. Although it would surely make for an easier life, the thought of the little ones growing up can be very hard and sadness is only natural. It's no wonder some people choose not to integrate.

What are your thoughts?

7 comments:

Ruth said...

There is another perspective that happened to me. The little one keeps me young. I rejoiced with integration since when I did it, none were left behind. Struggled to relearn how to function. Still in counseling after, to learn what I should have learned as a child. Growing old is mandatory, growing up is optional. :)

Healing said...

I think integration should happen naturally on its own, not pushed by a therapist.

Ann Marie said...

we pretty much like the way things our ... w/o integration. Can't say it's always the best for functionality, but respect too there are others who wish more for solidarity. For us the multiplicity is all about communication, not so much integration. I like that you give another perspective.

Our best,
Anns

torchwoodfan said...

whatever you choose yourself will be right dont be pushed into something your not sure about they have all been there so long they are all you your many people but one person take care of yourself

Archi said...

Hi there
I guess I feel it isn't a choice just soemthing that happens sometimes if it's natural. Not sure I want to force it either way. Also realising that what might feel like integration could just be really good cooperation. Does that explain why some days seem more integrated than others? Hhmm. Wish I knew....

Meghan Weikel said...

I'm choosing not to. My therapist isn't pushing me either way. There is WAY too much resistance at the mere mention of integration. At least for now, and the foreseeable future, we've gone through too much to even think about that as a possibility. I think everyone just needs to listen to themselves and see what works best for everyone.

MissTryAsHardAsSheCan said...

My therapist is talking alot about this, but Im trying to find out all of the different 'Me's' first as its hard for me to notice.