tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8576170691178435057.post6304438322223770461..comments2023-10-23T22:03:55.915+01:00Comments on Candycan and Co...: I just want to be aloneCandycanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11829509163881070649noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8576170691178435057.post-27593104054056163662011-07-23T18:13:31.210+01:002011-07-23T18:13:31.210+01:00hi sharon, i hope you will feel some peace soon. C...hi sharon, i hope you will feel some peace soon. CCandycanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11829509163881070649noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8576170691178435057.post-79411740139125978372011-07-14T10:08:30.496+01:002011-07-14T10:08:30.496+01:00I am reading this in emotional tears.... My boyfri...I am reading this in emotional tears.... My boyfriend of 2 years has just told me our relationship is over.It has been a week and I have not contacted him in this time...But last night I relented and rang him..he told me the same as when he ended it he just wants to be alone....No warning nothing, no argument, falling out he always told me he loved me and showed me such attention, and I just dont understand why???? I work shifts and find it difficult to juggle work life sometimes but after 2 years thought we were ok. The only advice I can give you is that you should write a letter with all your feelings and emotions in it. your partner is probably feeling like you distress and heartache. <br />today is my birthday and i know he wont contact me this is worst then ever as I keep thinking about all the good times and the first birthday we were together and how he made me feel. <br />I will never understand how he could feel this way towards me i thought we would have been together forever... he has been hurt in the past in relationships so thats why I think he feels this way... You need to reach into your innermost thoughts and write all your feelings down.<br />Im hoping this is a blipp in our relationship and reading your email hope yours is too. <br />I cant focus on anything!!! feel empty and down. <br />I hope you find the happiness in your relationship you obviously had, just think about your partner too confide in him and dont push him away... All I can say is you have your feelings but he is hurting too. <br />Good Luck I hope you work this out and get it back on track you sound like a lovely person.<br /><br />Sharonsharonnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8576170691178435057.post-4450303985259172432011-07-14T09:27:19.287+01:002011-07-14T09:27:19.287+01:00Yes, you're probably right. It's some kind...Yes, you're probably right. It's some kind of fucked up dissociation thing. A way of distancing self from emotions by blocking everything out which results in an inability to tolerate any intrusions into the blank state, because it's fragile. <br />You're right about the backwards part too. Even though pushing him away and not being able to stand him near her, she also just wants him to hold her and show her he loves her. Really fucked up.Candycanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11829509163881070649noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8576170691178435057.post-74332381226133787542011-07-13T22:59:41.080+01:002011-07-13T22:59:41.080+01:00I get like that when I'm suffering from DR/DP ...I get like that when I'm suffering from DR/DP --- exhausted, numb, hypersensitive, fragile, impatient. All of those things as associated with stress and, well, you have experienced a lot of stress lately. <br /><br />Perhaps it is a dissociation thing, to split one's feelings so that one's husband becomes unbearably detestable one day and amazingly lovely the next. ;-)<br /><br />Do you want to be alone because you feel alone? Often we want something to match how we feel, which seems quite backwards, but it has to do with cognitive dissonance. Maybe you want Adam to recognise how alone you feel? It is horrible feeling this way, and you deserve some love and support especially when you are hurting like this.JustElizahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08576780670208531276noreply@blogger.com