tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8576170691178435057.post5900986632698096675..comments2023-10-23T22:03:55.915+01:00Comments on Candycan and Co...: This post is about sex (dissociative identity disorder and problems with sex)Candycanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11829509163881070649noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8576170691178435057.post-44242492950078655892016-01-29T00:30:21.003+00:002016-01-29T00:30:21.003+00:00Hi everyone, thanks for the comments. Sorry I have...Hi everyone, thanks for the comments. Sorry I haven't replied, I haven't been blogging at all but am thinking about getting back into it although not sure if I'll start a new blog or continue this one. Thanks for reading!Candycanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11829509163881070649noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8576170691178435057.post-63730342178418374712015-11-17T07:28:20.157+00:002015-11-17T07:28:20.157+00:00Thanks to all of you! My wife is DID and reading a...Thanks to all of you! My wife is DID and reading all your posts makes me feel like I'm having a support group. Second Fiddelnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8576170691178435057.post-66561848366194410052015-10-10T23:09:37.825+01:002015-10-10T23:09:37.825+01:00This is a great article. I am so glad someone is b...This is a great article. I am so glad someone is bringing light on these myths. I wholeheartedly believe that as Christians we can have better intimacy and fun in our marriages than anyone else. Thanks for this post! <a href="http://www.relationshipeguide.com/how-to-rekindle-sexual-intimacy-in-your-relationship/" rel="nofollow">sexual intimacy problems in marriage</a><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8576170691178435057.post-23263529762008521692014-09-04T06:53:10.469+01:002014-09-04T06:53:10.469+01:006 years !!!
wheres the best days of your life now?...6 years !!!<br />wheres the best days of your life now?<br />gone for ever!! its my opinion and you have the right to have yours <br />i read all post of everyone here and a saw word like....<br /> run away,hide,dont tell him and thing like that<br />that not the way to fix anything!!<br />be true whit you(first) and the people around you that love you and can help you<br />i mean face it straigh foward, talk about it, seek help if you need some its not a shame,you desserved it , and then a least you will be in the right way to be happy one day<br />one days at the time maybe but at least happy<br />(sry for the weird writting im actualy french)<br />good luck on your journeyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8576170691178435057.post-65798652183443325592014-05-11T16:15:50.140+01:002014-05-11T16:15:50.140+01:00http://missyjubilee.com/videos/
This is a link to...http://missyjubilee.com/videos/<br /><br />This is a link to an Australian female artist dealing with the subject matter through film. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8576170691178435057.post-14132327018547605762013-10-07T23:17:15.920+01:002013-10-07T23:17:15.920+01:00I relate to what you are saying about denial and r...I relate to what you are saying about denial and relief with diagnosis. Unfortunately, you may find that this continues to be an issue. Even after several years now I still often go into denial and think there is nothing wrong and nothing bad has happened. At least now I've learned to sit with these feelings as I see how they vary. <br />A really good book I read which I found very helpful when I was first diagnosed was: The Dissociative Identity Disorder Sourcebook (Sourcebooks)<br />by Deborah Bray Haddock<br />I can't recommend it highly enough. <br />Let me know how you're doing. CCandycanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11829509163881070649noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8576170691178435057.post-67355946871633739242013-09-25T15:40:57.714+01:002013-09-25T15:40:57.714+01:00hi ya i came across this blog while looking for in...hi ya i came across this blog while looking for infor on DID as after many years lost in tne system of being diagnosed depressed, bi polar etc etc i was put forward to a womens group which i was seeing a phycologist who then had to leave so i just had this group with all sorts of womens mental health issues, any way after 7 years of this oneday the co ordinators were sent on courses and one was PODS which is to do with DID i couldnt believe it they were saying things that fitted me like a glove, since last year i have been fighting the battle within my selves with denial relief and some understanding, all of the above that you all have been brave to write is me all over and i have read it and its been of great help as one of the biggest issues is sex and every thing that goes with it even down to holding hands because if one of my me's as i call them can feel scared, im 51 with little me's from aged 3 up to present ones that are presenting thems selves to help, some have names, i was told of a book called "got parts?" which has been of some help but its the sexual side that is the issue, what im trying to say is that parts of me want this fixed so im searching for more info as i only get to see my physcologist every other week,my switching can cause alot of problems for me with memory so iv been told to write down alot so i have some idea what has happened, this was abit wierd to begin with as i would see spelling mistakes on simple words and different hand writing but now im getting more aware of who is in the front seat as i interperate it, sorry to go on and i recon when i send this there will be mistakes and not sounding good grammer but aye oh thats us DIDS aka me's :) ;0 ;) :( :) : Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8576170691178435057.post-15253890761954781872013-08-13T02:41:20.290+01:002013-08-13T02:41:20.290+01:00Thanks for replying. I wasn't sure if this was...Thanks for replying. I wasn't sure if this was still an active blog or not. So yeah, I was misdiagnosed and poorly medicated for most of my life. It wasn't until last year that I met a doc who spoke to me in words that made sense and told me what it was i was dealing with. I have dealt with being shoved to the other side of a glass window and watched myself do and say things i cannot control. I miss time and have nightmares... When i go through periods of stress that are unresolved, i begin to shuffle, and when i do i get horrible headaches. My husband knows exactly what is going on but it doesn't stop the sense of rejection when he wants to be intimate and i shine him... And when that happens he has his own emotional backlash... <br /><br />I was admitted to ER a couple days ago because i was triggered hard enough that i wanted to run away. Problem is, there is nowhere to run. And i could not stay at home. They gave me loraziapm, and it helped to reset my state but it is by no means a solution.<br /><br />I want more than anything to be close to my husband and be able to express trust and intimacy in a physical way. Right now all i can do is trust him when he treats me like an asexual partner... It's hell.<br /><br />I got a referral today to go to a psychoanalyst who will recommend a doc based on my needs and my preference. Fingers are crossed. <br /><br />It is hard for me to recount specific things without a thread or query, so if there is a certain angle you would like to know about, please outline it for me. My DID is so compartmentalized that i have very little access to memory unless in that mode.<br /><br />Talk soon.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8576170691178435057.post-53012738244281259602013-08-07T22:56:55.408+01:002013-08-07T22:56:55.408+01:00Hi anon; first of all, congrats for reading the wh...Hi anon; first of all, congrats for reading the whole post... mine do tend to be lengthy at times. It is so difficult dealing with all the issues around sex and then managing partners' insecurities on top of it. I don't share with Adam just how bad things are but I try to reassure him that it is not because of him but because of my own issues. It doesn't fix everything but it does help him to hear that verbal reassurance. If you decide to talk more about your experiences I'd be interested to read.<br /><br />Thomas, sorry I didn't see your message before. It's a good idea to have that internal structure where parts can go and then the courtyard. I like that idea. I suppose my T encourages a similar thing with the 'round table' but it can be hard to accommodate sometimes!Candycanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11829509163881070649noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8576170691178435057.post-39748038437988451572013-08-07T07:38:45.878+01:002013-08-07T07:38:45.878+01:00Hey, i read all of that, and... well i searched fo...Hey, i read all of that, and... well i searched for something to help me feel not so isolated. Your post is so much like what i am going through. We have been married for 1 1/2 years and have enjoyed actual sex up to a certain point... There were episodes where is would switch and sort of freak out and end the moment, but we always bounced back. Lately... I have been out of treatment for some time, i have been more and more "afraid" to have sex with my husband. I have "given in" a couple times but it never resulted in anything unless, like you, i had a story or picture in my head. But in the last mont or so, no dice. When he touches me, my committee gets all pissed off and my body rebels. He thinks i don't have physical feelings for him anymore... It sucks because i see the look on his face and i STILL can't do anything about it. And his emotional discomfort makes it even worse for me and harder to "talk myself into it". I don't have names for all my modes but my survivor and my pessimist are jaded and talk crap about "motives"... the one that is being protected feels used... While I am sitting here like WTF why can't i just fall into line and get in the mood. I am currently looking for a Doc so i can disassemble all of tis and, hopefully, get back into EMDR treatment... The things we have gone through lately, and the lack of a doctor have left me in relapse. Triggers i thought had been re-addressed are now more prominent than evar... I am so grateful you have the balls to write about DID. I have not gone online to talk about this before but since it can be anonymous i feel a little better...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8576170691178435057.post-36966053447340261922013-04-20T07:39:22.062+01:002013-04-20T07:39:22.062+01:00I didnt read but skimmed. I had a name once but it...I didnt read but skimmed. I had a name once but it didnt fit. we dont write letters to each other because it will freak him out, yet we creat a space like an apartment building with a court yard that we can talk openly when appropriate. then we all go to our rooms so he can maintain some sort of functionality.Tom Herring New Life disc golfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17192364924471621387noreply@blogger.com