tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8576170691178435057.post6100043814378838506..comments2023-10-23T22:03:55.915+01:00Comments on Candycan and Co...: Sexual arousal when remembering and talking about sexual abuseCandycanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11829509163881070649noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8576170691178435057.post-67418150688185546912016-04-06T15:16:18.542+01:002016-04-06T15:16:18.542+01:00Hi anonymous, it's just not talked about very ...Hi anonymous, it's just not talked about very much. If your therapist is a good therapist, they should be able to hear you talk about it without judgement and understand that it is a common reaction. It's just physiological. Having said that, its not easy to talk about. Try not to be hard on yourself. Just because the body reacts that way does not mean it was ok that it was done to a person. Candycanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11829509163881070649noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8576170691178435057.post-70924917049515949012016-02-21T03:38:44.202+00:002016-02-21T03:38:44.202+00:00I have been struggling with this issue for years. ...I have been struggling with this issue for years. It's been happening so much in the last week. I feel so filthy and I have always has so much shame when I get physically aroused from the memories. This is the first time I've ever admitted this happens. Not even to my therapist. I think it's because it's the first time I've ever found out I'm not the only one. I felt like I was going crazy with shame so I googled it and can't believe this is actually a thing that happens to others. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8576170691178435057.post-56576244882259976512013-12-06T01:47:07.444+00:002013-12-06T01:47:07.444+00:00Omg thats exactly how im feeling =( i dont know wh...Omg thats exactly how im feeling =( i dont know what to do! it feels so wrong and im scared im going crazy! i cant help feel this way =(Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8576170691178435057.post-35337078519961393882013-10-15T11:43:43.410+01:002013-10-15T11:43:43.410+01:00hiya candycan its me :/ anonymous im ok and some o...hiya candycan its me :/ anonymous im ok and some of my me's, i spoke to my T and she said i need to take it slowly and try and keep the little me's safe while reading this blog but i just feel so relieved yet scared as you can understand, the pain the re create is done to me also and them another me is disgusted and i need to pay for it, but my T wants to keep little ones safe but i cant always do this as they run riotand then my husband is left confused and hurt but how can i explain this side of did as he is only just getting use to some of my alter me's and at times feels sad when he can see he is not making love to me or the more grown up me's, but it happens and then this urge for the painfull side of sex as to be done as my pain thresh hold is so high cos iv learnt how to override this but enjoy it so i have to do what is needed when he is not here , its like my little me wont give in till she gets what she deserves again, i dont like the words making love as sex is sex to me in many degrees from ok to sheer disgust depending on who is ouyt at the time, my husbands says he makes love me and doesnt do sex, but this can make me cringe as i dont feel i deserve nice and when i do fek it im overwhelmed and cry then fgeel disgusted and this can be a battle ground with my me's :( :( ;/ im trying to stay in control but i understand its going to be a long journey from what my T has said but im so glad you have done this blogg as its so well done and said and maybe you could do a book on it as iv been given many books to read and the latest is "got parts" but what small parts i have read so far is me all over just like others so thankyou candycan xxxxxx i think that when we all feel safe we will be a name not anonymous on here :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8576170691178435057.post-7303335567132484762013-10-07T23:09:35.455+01:002013-10-07T23:09:35.455+01:00Hi anonymous, please take care of yourself. Some t...Hi anonymous, please take care of yourself. Some things can be hard to read and might affect you later on. If you are learning about DID and only recently diagnosed, it's important not to take in too much at once as it can be overwhelming. I hope the others may learn to feel more safe soon and realise that the process you're going through is to help everyone and isn't going to happen any faster than anyone can manage.Candycanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11829509163881070649noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8576170691178435057.post-41289178138755521252013-09-25T16:25:58.460+01:002013-09-25T16:25:58.460+01:00omg omg omg iv just read this and im relieved yet ...omg omg omg iv just read this and im relieved yet scared but ok but i have to come away from this today as im taking in too much and can feel and hear the confusion of my alters my me's but we will return here but i need to get controll as its too much so sorry but i have to write this as im coming back even though others are scared of being discovered of what they no and do hope you understand this and im guessing you all will :( ;( >( :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8576170691178435057.post-85872342447894461862013-08-07T22:51:00.546+01:002013-08-07T22:51:00.546+01:00Hi anonymous, sorry you have such a hard time with...Hi anonymous, sorry you have such a hard time with sex. I hope you are finding ways to take care of yourself.Candycanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11829509163881070649noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8576170691178435057.post-33925890816366113352013-07-26T16:45:12.369+01:002013-07-26T16:45:12.369+01:00have experienced this a lot lately. ..and remember...have experienced this a lot lately. ..and remember experiencing this as a very young child too. I would recreate scenes of abuse with my stuffed animals..they would always be making humiliating comments, punishing me one after another. Sometimes, I even made myself bleed. I still don't understand why I did that, memories of similar abuses haven't surfaced..though I am in the beginning. It is hard now, as an adult, to reach any sort of climax without humiliating alters voicing themselves.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8576170691178435057.post-83440394910445109742013-04-27T08:35:27.172+01:002013-04-27T08:35:27.172+01:00No easy answer. No easy answer. Ruthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07083142637240943607noreply@blogger.com