tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8576170691178435057.post5815468608178144353..comments2023-10-23T22:03:55.915+01:00Comments on Candycan and Co...: Ideas for therapists: how to prepare us for your leavingCandycanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11829509163881070649noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8576170691178435057.post-70751713201278741222012-11-11T11:37:06.819+00:002012-11-11T11:37:06.819+00:00Anonymous 2, I also felt my T's return helped ...Anonymous 2, I also felt my T's return helped me to feel a stronger trust and bond with her. I guess it challenged the belief that people won't be there for you or will leave and not help. Candycanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11829509163881070649noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8576170691178435057.post-36441282447224108432012-11-11T11:35:19.011+00:002012-11-11T11:35:19.011+00:00Thank you everyone for your comments. Sorry for ta...Thank you everyone for your comments. Sorry for taking half a year to get back to you. I think a way of coping this year has included distancing myself from a lot of what's going on inside. Unfortunately this means i haven't been on my blog much. I hope those of you who have been struggling in the same way have been finding ways to take care of yourself. Ruth, if you'd still like to link this post to your blog I'd be more than happy. If I can help anyone feel less alone in going through something like this it would help me to feel my experiences haven't been all for nothing.Candycanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11829509163881070649noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8576170691178435057.post-23933735080449129422012-05-08T07:42:11.231+01:002012-05-08T07:42:11.231+01:00My counselor moved a little over a year ago. Your...My counselor moved a little over a year ago. Your suggestions are good ones. The transition was really tough. I think I would like to have a post on my page on this same subject. May I link your post to my page? <br />Thanks,<br />RuthRuthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07083142637240943607noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8576170691178435057.post-73550000958780002072012-05-02T12:05:09.092+01:002012-05-02T12:05:09.092+01:00i found your blog when searching for people who ha...i found your blog when searching for people who had been through the same thing i was going through. My therapist left without warning end of Dec last year for personal reasons on emergency leave and i found reading your blog really helped me through that time to just know i wasnt alone and someone else had felt the same way i did and i wasnt crazy. <br />Im pleased to say my therapist finally came back last week! <br /><br />The time she was gone was the hardest time ever in my life i too felt like you did/do and i feel i went through some sort of breakdown. I actually thought i was going to die of a broken heart i was so depressed. The good news is now my therapist is back i feel our bond is stronger than ever and strangely enough i feel closer to her than ever maybe because she did come back when i didnt know if she was coming back or not i also wasnt told how long she would be off for and was also told she may never come back that was so hard for me. I was told by mistake too that she had left for good and wasnt coming back that day was the worst day of my life luckily i was given the correct information the following day and im so glad i didnt do something stupid when i was told that by mistake as i was so close to leaving this world i feel i cant live without her in my life. I agree that the therapist/patient relationship is more than just a job just another patient-it has to be i could not just sit there with any old doctor who i didnt care about and who didnt care about me and tell them my deepest darkest secrets and pain it just wouldnt work. The fact she cares about me and shes become like the mum i never have is the main reason im making any progress.<br /><br />I want to say always hang on to hope i know what your going through i know that pain that abandonment and alone feeling and its so heart breaking but im sure your therapist will return im sure she worries about you alot and cares a great deal about you. You seem like such a lovely person i love reading your blog i actually think we are quite similar people i see myself in some of the things you say you feel.<br /><br />I wish you all the best for thr future and take good care of yourself hun your not alone in how you feel xxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8576170691178435057.post-91400304740314882042012-05-01T11:29:57.933+01:002012-05-01T11:29:57.933+01:00we appreciate your blogging with such honesty and ...we appreciate your blogging with such honesty and feel we can certainly relate to a lot of what you say. all these years thinking we were not a 'proper DID person' (!) embarrassed about that now - but for years in therapy and so much trauma and parts coming like meteorites from another planet, and then we'd get home and go into shock and then denial - and we did this for so long - this not believing in the 'we' and what they brought - it couldn't be true, just impossible for that carla one (who was the one in charge before) to believe - complete exhausting conflict that she thought she could keep doing until the grave. And then in the last few months, the whole thing has flipped over and everything has come home to roost and it has given us a connection to the heart and that is invaluable and a new name arose as a commitment to listening to the heart 'Willow' but carla has gone a long way away and there is so much heavy silence and then waves of multiplicity and strings of unintelligable young sounds. We are telling yous this because not just the times of conflict in common, but also during this time our therapist (who is like an oak tree and has held everything) has broken her leg and cannot see us for 2 months - such timing. It is so hard without her steady heart being there and we then tried an nhs trauma specialist and she tried hard but of course it is impossible to feel held by someone who doesn't even know how incredibly sensitive we are and doesn't know our history - but just keeps on saying she understands - it made us feel crazy because we felt suicidal after seeing her and she had just tried her best. So we are now waiting for our real therapist is better and can help with this process of integration (well we think that is what may be happening). So thank you for being quite amazing to actually blog about your experiences with such honesty and btw we are not working and haven't for some time and yet this whole thing hitting us from out of the blue and being overtaken by such horrors, has certainly felt like a lot of extremely hard work. Thanks again.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8576170691178435057.post-9835871265937961902012-05-01T00:30:38.923+01:002012-05-01T00:30:38.923+01:00Thanks for your comment and I'm glad you agree...Thanks for your comment and I'm glad you agree with the points. <br /><br />I should have said for ppl to add their own if they can think of any more helpful things.Candycanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11829509163881070649noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8576170691178435057.post-22603474230561837882012-05-01T00:22:31.858+01:002012-05-01T00:22:31.858+01:00Great post! Loved it! As someone with DID, I think...Great post! Loved it! As someone with DID, I think all of these suggestions are excellent and would really help me if Doc left me for an extended amount of time.Silenced-No-Longerhttp://silenced-no-longer.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.com