tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8576170691178435057.post5701135618742579585..comments2023-10-23T22:03:55.915+01:00Comments on Candycan and Co...: The project: who are my personalities?Candycanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11829509163881070649noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8576170691178435057.post-1380398693976131812011-08-24T10:18:59.872+01:002011-08-24T10:18:59.872+01:00Ellen, it's not just me then! Thanks for readi...Ellen, it's not just me then! Thanks for reading.<br /><br />Eliza, I think you're right about being sensitive to it being someone else. I think my therapist would agree with you about Grace otherwise she wouldn't be using her so readily.Candycanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11829509163881070649noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8576170691178435057.post-77046475220799285332011-08-24T10:14:46.205+01:002011-08-24T10:14:46.205+01:00A few sentences of my post got lost in the ether i...A few sentences of my post got lost in the ether in the editing process. I have now added them in but they are this: <br /><br />When T was asking me about Andy I really started to struggle with myself. I could sense that Andy wanted to come out to speak to T directly but I was scared to let this happen. It always happens that when I feel an alter try to come out with T, I instinctively try to prevent it. The only way I can do this is by 'shutting down'. At worst this means dissociating. At best, it means not speaking so that nothing can be allowed to be said. If I keep my mouth shut, I will be safe. This is pretty much what happened yesterday. I was able to tell T that I was finding it difficult though and she asked me if parts were chattering inside. She wondered if Andy was upset because we were talking about him/her. I explained that it was not that Andy was upset but that he/she wanted to speak to T and I didn't want them to (I say 'he/she' because I don't know if Andy is a boy or girl. I think 'girl' but not a girly girl.Candycanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11829509163881070649noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8576170691178435057.post-21199596590113557182011-08-24T08:30:26.993+01:002011-08-24T08:30:26.993+01:00Babies learn how to regulate themselves by introje...Babies learn how to regulate themselves by introjecting their mother. Obviously those of us who didn't have adequate 'mothers' don't have a good way of self-soothing, hence we see people as intimidating and feel unsafe. <br /><br />But the principle for us as adults is the same -- introjecting a good soothing model (like a therapist) will help you. There is no shame in taking in parts of other people. Everyone does it, that's how we form our personalities to some degree. Someone with a dissociative disorder may be very sensitive to the fact that it is still 'other'. It is okay to accept the help of Grace if it helps you, even if she doesn't feel like you. You accept the help of your therapist, and Grace's help may be even easier to accept?JustElizahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08576780670208531276noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8576170691178435057.post-60479579283837287952011-08-24T02:20:22.854+01:002011-08-24T02:20:22.854+01:00I tend to go to the cafe, order, then realize that...I tend to go to the cafe, order, then realize that while I brought my book and my journal, I didn't bring my wallet. Luckily they let me pay later. <br /><br />Thanks for writing - interesting to learn more about you.ellenhttp://www.shyandblue.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.com