tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8576170691178435057.post4096906516044915984..comments2023-10-23T22:03:55.915+01:00Comments on Candycan and Co...: Reasons why it's really hard when your therapist leavesCandycanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11829509163881070649noreply@blogger.comBlogger23125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8576170691178435057.post-45920551565653400042015-07-04T16:43:05.368+01:002015-07-04T16:43:05.368+01:00I just lost my therapist with 1 weeks notice. I ha...I just lost my therapist with 1 weeks notice. I have been in therapy multiple times. I finally felt that I was working somethings out. I had gained a lot. She was encourging me to things to make my life better. I had even told her that I was sure I believed that things could work out but I was trusting her. She was an anchor. I have cried more in the last 10 days than I have in my entire adult life. I have gone decades without crying. I feel alone and tired. I don't feel any tramatic cresendo of wanting to end things, but I do feel a complete resignation. My sense of world is what is left? I sant others to well and be happy. I just don't have a lot left. I really would like to just fade away. I am so tired of fighting just to get out of bed in the morning, of going to bed hoping not to wake up. I stick around because I have a responsibilty to my 3 daughters. I love them, but how long until I fail them. I am so tired. I have an appointment with a new therapist. I am sorry this is not a cheery post. I don't have cheery in me right now. Sorry for the typos. I am workiking with a very small tablet. Be well. SteveAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8576170691178435057.post-37956936368609381862015-06-20T11:21:48.678+01:002015-06-20T11:21:48.678+01:00I am so pleased to find this. I had my last appoin...I am so pleased to find this. I had my last appointment with my therapist a couple of days ago. It is SO hard to deal with. Especially as she told me she was leaving 5 weeks ago, so I've been upset that whole time before it even happened. I am so so sad. I've been seeing her for 10 months, so not as long as others here.<br /><br />I am in recovery from anorexia nervosa, and she became my therapist when I left the hospital. Things were very hard then, and still are. Right now I'm not sure wether to continue therapy.<br /><br />I honestly feel like I am grieving. I wish I could accept it and cope better. But I am too sad.<br /><br />I hope this will get better.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8576170691178435057.post-70653866238807783802015-02-02T11:16:53.023+00:002015-02-02T11:16:53.023+00:00That's so hard because it brings up so much pa...That's so hard because it brings up so much pain from past hurts. Are you going to see someone else to help you through this? I just hope you will find someone who you can feel is right for you. All I can say is don't give up. It does get easier in time.Candycanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11829509163881070649noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8576170691178435057.post-68679644992531820902015-02-01T17:35:01.292+00:002015-02-01T17:35:01.292+00:00my T retired after I have been seeing him for 7 ye...my T retired after I have been seeing him for 7 years. he's just gone and he was my anchor. i'm not feeling very grounded right now. it hurts to know he doesn't want contact by phone or internet. i was not ready at all and I feel depression setting in. i went to him for abandonment issues....and now he abandoned me . Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8576170691178435057.post-5959668634367288372014-07-16T06:21:37.964+01:002014-07-16T06:21:37.964+01:00My therapist is dying from cancer or from the side...My therapist is dying from cancer or from the side effects that come from the chemo used to treat cancer. I have seen him for 30 years and he is the one who has worked with my DID. I have felt this is the most secure relationship in my life. Now that he is leaving i have so many abandonment issues arising. I feel like he never cared. The idea that he lives in my town , but I will be unable to have any contact with him whatsoever, makes this seem unbearable. I have 5 more sessions with him. we were just getting to core issues and memories and this all feels very overwhelming.<br /><br />I have tried to move to a new therapist several times in the last year, and each time I did i got suicidal within 24 hours. I am really frightened to what this could cause within me. I am devastated and have parts who are suicidal and who want to cut and i have never had that occur before. what complicates issues is that we had some unresolved issues that we have been unable to resolve. We don't understand what was wrong with us that he was unable to reach us in some of our feelings. Now we will feel this permanent lose, and the sadness that this is unresolved. Why would he abandon us completely?<br /><br />We really need at least 4 more sessions to get through what is really driving all of this.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8576170691178435057.post-46625821790861918342014-01-14T06:24:44.512+00:002014-01-14T06:24:44.512+00:00same thing is happening to me after 3 yrs and im D...same thing is happening to me after 3 yrs and im DID TOO and I wonder ho you got on since you wrote this a coupl of yrs ago.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8576170691178435057.post-63008880989648465122013-12-07T03:56:23.244+00:002013-12-07T03:56:23.244+00:00Thanks. I am loosing my therapist soon. We only h...Thanks. I am loosing my therapist soon. We only have two more sessions together before she leaves. She is going to start her own business somewhere kind of far. It's in the same state, but I'm just so heartbroken. 💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔I already switched once, and I don't want to do it again. I've only been with her for about 8 months, but I'm devastated. I'm heartbroken.💔 I can't really deal with changes well, and I haven't exactly brought that up with her. I know I should and I feel SO stupid. She's been so helpful and our sessions have been so productive. When she told me a couple of days ago, I almost cried. But I held it in. I should have let it out since she's my therapist, but I didn't want to look pike a baby. I love her. Not LOVE love her but u get it. <br />I have cried myself to sleep every night this week, and it's affecting my life outside. 😢😪ðŸ˜ðŸ˜ðŸ˜ðŸ˜ðŸ˜«ðŸ˜ðŸ˜ðŸ’”<br />She said we could keep in touch through email and text and call and stuff, but it's not the same. I'm glad don't get me wrong. I'm just soooo devastated. I can't contain myself. She's just.... She always understood me and now she's leaving me. Wtf?!'sorry, but I love her. Andrea, if you are ever reading this (which ur probably not) I want you to know that I miss you. <br /><br /><br />It was so nice to be with you. I'll never forget you. 😘ðŸ’Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8576170691178435057.post-54733954306574971842013-10-07T23:04:58.210+01:002013-10-07T23:04:58.210+01:00I am sorry you're going through such a painful...I am sorry you're going through such a painful experience. Take care of yourself at the moment. It will get easier with time. I know that might not help much at the moment. For now, just work on coping with each day, hour or minute and do nice things for yourself.Candycanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11829509163881070649noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8576170691178435057.post-85379578281278356372013-10-03T18:24:19.661+01:002013-10-03T18:24:19.661+01:00Had my last session today. I can't console mys...Had my last session today. I can't console myself. It's too hard...Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18106385000552390411noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8576170691178435057.post-19319207304114508782013-09-27T11:17:20.625+01:002013-09-27T11:17:20.625+01:00Me too :( We've been seeing her for 2 years an...Me too :( We've been seeing her for 2 years and she diagnosed us. We were getting to the point of being comfortable with her and now she's leaving and I feel like everything's crumbling away around me. I have not cried this hard since I was a freaking toddler. It feels like she died it feels like we have to forget her now. We think of her numerous times a day she has really become my anchor for everything. I don't know if I even want this new therapist cause if they leave we'll be hurt like this again maybe even more. We have to keep going back to her now for 6 weeks and I don't know if I can even do that. I don't know how to say goodbye and I don't want to tell her what I look for in a new t at all.<br />Very nice blog btw, really nicely said. :(( Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8576170691178435057.post-7741985519265359042013-08-08T18:28:48.270+01:002013-08-08T18:28:48.270+01:00I'm going to lose my therapist in about 7 week...I'm going to lose my therapist in about 7 weeks and I'm devastated. I've become so attached to her, I don't think I go a day without thinking about the things we talk about in session. I have not cried so hard and so much about anything in a long long time. I'm only 14 so I'm really dependent on her and the fact that I'm probably never going to see her again completely breaks me. I honestly don't know how I'm going to get through this. I feel like my whole world has just fell apart and that I'm never going to be able to get through this.:'(Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18106385000552390411noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8576170691178435057.post-7543659257167718892013-08-08T18:26:56.960+01:002013-08-08T18:26:56.960+01:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18106385000552390411noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8576170691178435057.post-33261993022726774482013-03-27T20:41:16.141+00:002013-03-27T20:41:16.141+00:00Oh gosh, five years! That's awful Mary. I tota...Oh gosh, five years! That's awful Mary. I totally feel your pain. So sorry it's happening to you. I hope you have good support and can take care of yourself aswell.Candycanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11829509163881070649noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8576170691178435057.post-57393753105281434792013-03-20T21:07:45.511+00:002013-03-20T21:07:45.511+00:00I ma losing my therapist afer 5+ years. Your right...I ma losing my therapist afer 5+ years. Your right, it fucking stinks and sucks!MArynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8576170691178435057.post-46681647585062373572013-02-14T08:26:38.683+00:002013-02-14T08:26:38.683+00:00I'm sorry for you to have to go through that l...I'm sorry for you to have to go through that loss. I hope your therapist can help you prepare for this change. I hope you have success with the EMDR. Would be interested to hear from you how you find it. Take care of yourself. Candycanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11829509163881070649noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8576170691178435057.post-36537412388647494782013-02-05T03:35:38.809+00:002013-02-05T03:35:38.809+00:00Thanks for writing this - my therapist that I'...Thanks for writing this - my therapist that I've seen for 3 years just told me that my insurance is making me go to someone that does EMDR, which she doesn't do, so she won't be seeing me anymore as my therapist. I feel like someone I love just died suddenly. Christine Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07828492277708507754noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8576170691178435057.post-12941850265885910092012-11-11T11:06:29.575+00:002012-11-11T11:06:29.575+00:00My heart goes out to anyone in this situation. It ...My heart goes out to anyone in this situation. It does get easier in time but it'a little consolation during the crisis of it. I learnt to be stronger and care for myself after time. It's hard accepting her back now and trusting again knowing I'm making myself vulnerable to a repeat. But healing from the past involves some risk. Take careCandycanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11829509163881070649noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8576170691178435057.post-47415093046180522972012-11-11T01:09:58.569+00:002012-11-11T01:09:58.569+00:00Boy oh boy, you are so, so rightBoy oh boy, you are so, so rightAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8576170691178435057.post-841354889725849742012-05-23T09:52:37.396+01:002012-05-23T09:52:37.396+01:00It totally totally fucking stinks
Thanks for your...It totally totally fucking stinks<br /><br />Thanks for your writing it describes how i feel, i have did and my t told me yesterday that we are done, after five years - hard to keep goingAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8576170691178435057.post-35905643359511463492011-12-19T20:04:14.763+00:002011-12-19T20:04:14.763+00:00It definitely fucking stinks!It definitely fucking stinks!NormalWasNotMyGoalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14687479883199918652noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8576170691178435057.post-11874912780522328402011-12-16T22:17:43.574+00:002011-12-16T22:17:43.574+00:00You have given very good reasons for why you don&#...You have given very good reasons for why you don't want to lose your therapist. We totally understand. Just wish we could help :-(<br /><br />Best wishes,<br />EricaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8576170691178435057.post-63628100360805314722011-12-15T02:36:02.630+00:002011-12-15T02:36:02.630+00:00Those are excellent reasons for not wanting to los...Those are excellent reasons for not wanting to lose your therapist. I think also it's not so much that we imagine they are perfect...it's more of an issue of transference, where we project on them important qualities from people in our past. When that happens, you can't just transfer those feelings to someone else so easily, and part of therapy is working through those feelings. I'm surprised your therapist isn't sensitive to that.<br /><br />Very tough situation for you and I do sympathize a lot. I like how you are going into detail on your thoughts on this. take careellenhttp://www.shyandblue.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8576170691178435057.post-18561555304381219432011-12-13T05:50:48.537+00:002011-12-13T05:50:48.537+00:00Thanks Candy, you put into words exactly how I fel...Thanks Candy, you put into words exactly how I felt last year when my counselor announced he was moving. I still feel awkward with new counselor but I am also seeing progress. You have my deepest sympathy.Ruthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07083142637240943607noreply@blogger.com